As a single, 35-year old, it’s frustrating to continuously see false hopes and happy endings in Hollywood. We literally sit and watch a show where the shitty guy suddenly sees how amazing the woman is and how bad he’s been treating her. Voila! He now becomes a good guy! All of a sudden, he decides to commit and treat her right. Oh, and he apologizes too! Well, that does NOT happen in real life and I’m tired of seeing it onscreen.
Shrill is a new show on Hulu starring the amazing, incredibly talented Aidy Bryant. Finally, there’s a show that discusses body image and what it’s like to not be the so-called “ideal body”. Shrill so beautifully and realistically captures the feelings, thoughts, struggles, and hopes that go along with all of that. It is truly groundbreaking. Unfortunately, Shrill has disappointed me in one major way. SPOILER ALERT: Aidy Bryant’s character, Annie, keeps going back to the shitty guy, Ryan. Annie finally sees her worth and her self-esteem soars. She stands up for herself. She tells Ryan how he treats her like garbage, and she deserves better (one example: he makes her sneak out the back door of his house). Voila! Ryan suddenly realizes how amazing Annie is! Although yes, they do have ups and downs, and backs and forths (is that a phrase, I don’t know!). Yet, somehow Ryan keeps wanting to commit to Annie and Annie keeps on taking him back.
That just doesn’t happen in real life. Still, so many people consistently hope for that. How can we blame them?! This is literally what we see every day onscreen. But it needs to end. See, Annie did find someone else that knew her worth all along, but alas it was for one night only. I need to see Annie permanently walk away from Ryan and meet a good, kind man that treats her with respect from the start. That’s the relationship that we need to see onscreen. (Ok, quick, special shout out, of course, to my favorite onscreen of couple of all time, Jim and Pam in The Office. Pam left the shitty guy, Roy. Nice guy Jim got the girl!)
Fellow Sex and the City fans, Carrie should have never ended up with Big. In real life, Big would never have committed to her fully. I think that Carrie would have been with Aidan, the man that always was all in. Sometimes there’s no clear answer why the shitty guy won’t commit. Maybe they’re just not ready. Maybe they’re just not stable enough yet. Or maybe, just maybe, they don’t have enough feelings to go all in. My beautiful, smart, successful, incredible ladies, it doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you! It only means that this guy just isn’t “the one”.
As I started writing this post, I remembered the movie 500 Days of Summer. In this onscreen couple, it was the woman that was shitty. Yes, we can be the shitty ones and I know that. The big reveal here, they didn’t end up together! She married someone else and the movie ends with him flirting with a new woman. That’s real life! Thank goodness someone in Hollywood didn’t need that fake happy ending. He couldn’t make her want to be with him (as no one can!), so they both moved on. Let’s see more of that PLEASE!
Let’s make a vow to know our worth. Let’s walk away from the shitty person that doesn’t really want to be in a relationship with us. And when we’re the shitty one (which I’m guilty of myself), let’s walk away too. This isn’t a Hollywood movie. This is real life. Let’s get into relationships where we value and honor each other from the start.
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